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分離教會我們的事

擁有，是分離的共謀，當「擁有」被促成，「失去」的能量就同時誕生。

人，一直追尋擁有，一直害怕失去，帶著致命的火藥在身，很危險而不自知，

因為人真的夢想擁有，抗拒失去。

其實，人不懂擁有，也不懂失去，

只被恐懼催促著前進，在「想要擁有、害怕失去裡」循環著，

為什麼不直接去看恐懼呢？

恐懼使擁有時不安，失去時崩潰，使你失眠、痛苦、失落、生病，

使你一生成了一齣悲劇。

為什麼不好好看恐懼，

啊，正因為－－那就是恐懼。
  

我全然愛過，在分離中迷失，又從其中清醒，

直到知道了全然不同的真相。

相聚與分離是人間日日上演的大戲，會惑人眼目的幻相。

人易被形式所騙，在一起不一定心心相聚，分開不一定就失去，

太多在一起的人保持著封閉和孤單之心，只想佔有，

此時，分離就給予一個空間，使人省視，

使人沉澱思索「我倒底要什麼」；

況且分開從不是偶然，是人內心的決定變成行為，

不論是離開的或被離開的，都請好好省視一番：

宇宙中沒有意外。

內在的破壞者是誰？

你不是早就想走，現在，心想事成了。

這的確是很不易過關的課題。

人喜歡比較，將擁有和失去相比，兩種情境無法相比，

比較之下，無限惆悵、自憐、哀怨、憤恨的情緒湧出，早已不能自已！

有的人不去碰分離之痛，壓抑之後，惡毒更多。

總還是會發作的。
 去靜心吧，觀看引發這些情緒後面的思想，

觀照再觀照，向它學習，你的生命會教你。

最終，你會知道：

沒有人能失去任何人，

因為沒有人能擁有任何人。
 

真正的自由是，不佔有。_王靜蓉

My Experience And Insight for Journey Of Personal Growing

Today i will like to share with u all regarding the journey of my personal growing. I personally feel the following points is very important to be aware of when facing our daily life issues .All our daily life issues is the chance for us to choose wisely again with love:

a) Soft with love

How soft we treat ourselves/others depend on the beliefs we have on personal growing. We all expect love from outside/others,but the only "things" we can in charge is ourselves ie our body,mind,spirit..etc.

If we look at some main personal growth terms which we may read from books,attend workshop....etc, ie aware,allow,accept,appreciate,say yes,surrender,natural...etc, all the above energy is very soft and full of love energy.In order for our life to move towards more easily and smooth life,instead of resistant,we say yes and appreciate to 'everything happen/come in our life"

b)our beliefs/valued in our life issues

We need to be aware where those beliefs come from? Why we so identified or attached with those beliefs and willing to "pay a higher price" in order to hold on those beliefs?

I personally feel listening to our body language,feeling,intuition ...ie those very honest and true voice ... etc is a wisely guidelines to guide us to "choose" the beliefs which is most suitable/match with" ourselves". We need to learn to use our inner wisdom to reassess all the beliefs we have with open heart.

Most of the people live their life according to the beliefs which can fulfill their yearning need like to be love,accepted,belonging... etc. and feel safe and comfort in doing so.

c)Higher power/Tau

Our 'I" always want to be in charge, in control of everything and think we know what is the best choice for us. I personally feel at the moment most of the people are very blur and they are unaware most of the time ,their unconscious are in charge which attract them to/from " things' which are very painful for them to go through it.

We need to learn to be humble and give way and listen to higher power voices/ Tao which really have the wisdom and love to take care of our universal as a whole.

d)Intimacy relationship with ourselves first,then we are able to cultivate intimacy/peaceful relationship with others/universal.

Everyday , most of the people are so occupied with the ' Things" outside and seldom" give/invest time" to ourselves and listen to our inner voices/need.What really can enrich ourselves ie body,mind.spirit ?

e)Self responsible for 'anythings" happen in our life

I learn to reflect what i contribute to "those happening/come into my life". If i can always remind myself to see in this way, I have the chance to growth and chose again wisely with love.I have the chance to be more aware of my" learning lesson" and breakthrough it.

Above is some of the main guideline/ insight i will like to share with u all especially for those who are beginner/new to personal growing.I really hope we all can move more easily and smoothly and "save time" in our journey to growth.Just to remind, always trust your own inner wisdom voice and we all have abundant resources to face our daily life issues.

with sharing, Lian sie - 1.5.2011